Dating someone different from your own race.....
Coming from a traditional family background , never have i dreamed on dating someone different other then my race. Of course i have my fascination on *Caucasian blokes* at a young age due to influence of watching many western movies and subscribing to American teen magazine like TEEN BEAT , BIG BOP , etc..but i did not expect that i will actually date one.. SERIOUSLY...
Till now i kept questioning myself this even before or after dating JT who is English, did i fancied him because :-
the fascination i had when i was young i.e. dating Caucasian men cause they are one gorgeous breed with blue eyes and light hair?or bad experience from past relationships from same ethnic minority ?,or is it a curious experience to date someone different ? ,
or his commitment to raise his 6 year old daughter as a single parent which gave me an impression how responsible he is ?
or hating to be lonely in a foreign country and desperate for companionship?or physical attraction ( large at appropriate areas ) ?
The answer : ????


judging from an Asian Dating website :-
Asian Women get the dirty end of the stick, like in many Asian countries. In these Asian countries where it happens it is not considered the "dirty end," but a duty. So Asian women have a lot to contemplate when considering marrying one of the available males in her country. Will he be able to support me and our family? Will he keep a mistress? Well he beat me and having no right to divorce I will have no alternative but to stay with him?In other words Western men are far more desirable for a life companion than Asian men. Western men are perceived as being very loving, and more modern than Asian. This means the woman can look forward to more freedom and a more equal relationship with a Western man.
Not sure that is true , a bit commercial to agree as its a dating website
Another website which i came across , Melissa who has her opinion on dating a white guy and now married to one:-

We both were doing the same course in electrical and electronics engineering. It wasn't love at first sight unfortunately.... he wasn't at all my type of guy. First of all.. he's white... I never found white guys attractive, and second he has full manly facial hair!

But my experience so far , there can be weirdness e.g. i am oriental and he is white and I love seafood and he does not ( most english people even girls dont eat them due to its acquired taste & conservative culture) and then whatever food he likes more etc. meat / steak , we will end up eating more of it compare to oriental OR asian cuisine so to fit into his culture.
The relationship can be amazing and intense , but like any other relationships, its a give & take situation and its a kind of thing you need to prepare yourself to adjust to .
Then comes the issue of dealing with his ex's family as sometimes i feel as if I am not good enough or too foreign to date JT . I think they will always resent that their daughter * SH* and JT should be together. But she is already married to another guy *MH* anyway and have a child *A* together.
Moreover the kind-of the step mom role is also another challenge for me as i have no experience of being a mother but what i do is * do not force them to like you* and never interrupt the father & daughter moment as he has her only in the weekend. I will post more on this later on..
End of the day , dating someone foreign is not a barrier for you to have a relationship. As long you know that you have similar culture backgrounds e.g. raised in nice families and similar taste in hobbies , for me and JT its photography , movies , music , and have some of the same friends then it is of course no different to dating some one of your own race in the same situation and skin color should never really matter anyway- my answer is

as long your happy , nothing matters at all, who cares what people thinks


Love,

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