Are pictures of the ex partner essential ?
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This issue has been bugging me ever since I moved in with JT. Sure this isn't my house and I don't owned it but will be putting some contribution to it once I get my degree sorted and the usual job hunting procedure.
Anyways last nite at dinner , I took the courage to ask him : -


Me : Sweetie , You are going to be angry when i ask you this.
JT : OK, Tell me. What's bugging you ?
Me : Ok you know that we have been going out for a while ( 2 years and 8 months) I was wondering if it is ok to change some pictures in the living room.
JT : Oh good idea, which one?
Me: Well its kinda awkward to have a huge picture of  SH ( JT's ex , MT mom) MT and you  in the living room wall.So I was wondering if you can put it in MT's room instead. I don't mean to say that picture isnt nice , but just that its weird to have it on your living room wall as the centre piece when I am dating you.
and his reply......


JT: Yeah , why not. If it makes you happy. Can put it in MT's room. I just put it there as it was my 21st birthday gift from SH and its got MT in it. Have to find a replacement though. A picture of you, MT and me?
Me : SPEECHLESS....ok ( that was'nt so hard after all )


I stumble in a couple of website about this matter and the best i found is from singlemommyhood.com . Have a read through of her post. Her situation isn't that similar to mine as she on the other hand is her daugther wants to display her picture of her father ( her ex husband) but told her 13-year old daughter that it would be better to display in her room only.


FullCustodyDad on the other gave his opinion on it saying :-


'Pictures of the Ex are important to kids and most certainly should be in the kids’ rooms. My daughter has pictures of her mom and every other year I try to take another one of her and my Ex to add to her room.'
After interviewing several social workers who are trying to determine contested custody disputes say…




1) No pictures of the Ex is a tip or concern that the parent may harbor alienation or resentment.



2) Pictures of the Ex in the kids room is ideal and shows balance.



3) Pictures of the Ex in the living room or all over the house is a tip that the parent is trying too hard to impress them or is not dealing with the divorce.
 
Hope this helps other to answer questions. Let me know what you guys think?
 
Lots of love,

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Emphasizing the relationship with the EX ?
Can't explain much about this..I need answers. Had a bust up about dining with his ex. He thinks im jealous of having dinner with his ex alone as he sees me 24/7 and why can't he have a meal out with his ex once in a blue moon? Besides its about to discuss about MT and catch up on things? If you can't stand it , too bad!! Well F* You JT!!
He didnt even give me a chance to explain why im feeling this way, it would be better if he could say oh i am going out for a meal with my ex alone to discuss things NOT say that and being very quiet about the outing. Making me think he has having affair.
The thing about the fall down on relationships is less communication. Can't believe i even mention you can bloody hell go out with other girls or prostitute i don't care , just let me know some information what will you be doing with them. Why so secretive and quiet about it!!



Pissed me off when he said that. So I get it, I need to let you emphasize the relationship with you ex for the sake of MT. But does it have to be the extend of having a meal out alone just the two? Hmmmmmm.
I told him i need to be prioritise too. It's not all about your daugther and your ex. If its so important maybe you should go marry your ex! I just don't understand it sometimes. I get fed up, sure i trust JT but the way he put it sounds as i am not important.  I wonder how the ex's husband tolerates this relationship. I guess he has a child with the ex so he puts all his devotion on to the baby.



Me , i don't have anything except I can focus more on my career , my friends and see how much longer I can put up with this relationship. I thought it would be ok at first. But things just been rough and self esteem is down so maybe a hint of jealously may initiate the bust up. I dunno.



Anyways JT came and hug me and apologies that he will be more informative about the outing next time. Will see if he does. I do not wish to have to remind him about it. I deserve better treatment don't I? hehhe



Lots of Love,

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Wax on , Wax off
Beauty is pain. Pain is beauty. Whichever way you prefer to call it. Now then , one of the most feared beauty regime for most women i think is waxing their pubics off. Any objections?  Why because i just had the balls to do it today. Out of 10 , the pain was 10.  I don't know why i decided to do it but i guess im feeling quite in the spring mood and wanting some excitement. And of course i want to wear some gorgeous lingerie to seduce JT. A women got to take some initiative sometimes.So yes, i decided to go for a Hollywood waxing. I've never done any waxing in my entire life except a one off experimenting cold strips waxing on my pubics and eyebrow. Probably thats why it put me off to continue this beauty regime as its so bloody painful.
I love the results though. Baby smooth, just like a little girl again!!! Bliss.


Now for those who dont know the stages of pubic waxing. They consist of :-
  • Basic bikini waxing
  • Brazillian
  • Playboy
  • Hollywood
  • Las Vegas
The highest stage is Hollywood which is the one i did. Its basically everything off.Bald. Las Vegas is just adding stick on jewellery thats it really. But everything off.


It was weird at first when you are ask to just wear your underwear and try to relax. The beautician will tell you that she will work from outwards then inwards, see how much pain can you bear  and she will stop from there. My experience it hurts more on the outside of the pantyline compare to the bottom bit near your privates.  It took almost  1 hr to get all my hair off!!! Boy wasn't i glad the pain and agony was over. I mean why would people stop at Playboy? Must as well go full on right?


Oh as well , you've got to have an open mind when the beautician looks into your privates. If your uncomfortable with this, then i suggest dont do it if you are so shy to bare it out!!! She freaking has seen so many till she is so use to it!! So be brave and bite the bullet!.
Best advice i can give for those who are getting any bikini wax is to get comfortable with yourself intimately. Think sexy lingerie and suspenders!!!


Oh another tip, make sure your beautician uses talcon powder before waxing, it prevents stripping off all your skin cells, and also dont have your waxing done during or just after your period. Second week of your period should be ideal. Take any pain killers 1/2 hr before treatments. After waxing, no swimming / baths / sunbead / sex for 24hrs , Wash it with warm water with an exfloliate so that the hair can come out properly. Don't want any ingrown hair. If you want to maintain this you have to wait around 3-6 weeks. It depends on individual , how fast your hair grows, but basically let it grow for approx 1 cm.


Anyways, im loving my baby smooth intimate part. Definitely Hollywood waxing is the way to go. Good Luck for those who are going!! Its all worth it!!!!



Lots of love,
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New Year, New Sheets


Finally  new set of Bedsheets for the year. Apparently it is suppose to improve your romance in the relationship. I was quite motivated to invest on some new sheets. Not only i was getting bored with the colour sheets we've been sleeping with , but also i wanted something new. Hence the colour was different too. I'm a big softy to stripes. I hate flowery design. I love simple , chic and modern. Stripes definitely marks the spot. This time im going for black , grey and hot pink. My previous colour was red and dark purple.
So many changes this year. I finally decided to replace my bolster which i had it for 10 years since i came to UK. Shame on me but yeah its now been inherited by MT . Anyways back to work now. Here is the sheets i bought. How cool is this eh? Comes in two sets so i wont get too bored anytime soon.







Lots of Love,
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Mother's Day and Step Mother's Day? ( well am not officially a stepmom yet)

It just stinks doesn't it when you are in a step family relationship where your dating a guy with a kid for a good couple of years. I feel like a maid , taxi driver , bank account , whore at times as not being appreciated. But i guess its those consequences you have to face when you are in a relationship with a step kid.

Sometimes in my mind , maybe thats why JT does not want to get married with me as why should he when he has a girlfriend who doesn't complained, does everything for him and treats his daughter well and gets along with his ex ??

It was nice that MT did offered to give me some flowers from church and i was really touch by her consideration . Bless her!! I told her to get some for her mum and nan ( her mum's mum).

I was quite furious that JT didnt even have the slightest gesture or thought to get me something for Mother's Day. I know im expecting to much , eventhough I am not a mum but hey who does all the tidying , cooking , cleaning , ironing and sacrifice my own couple time. Call it selfish , i do not care. But at least some small gesture you know. I am human and i would love to be appreciated at times. So would i want to deal with this treatment say if i was to marry him in future? I am not sure at the moment.

Oh speaking of that , his mum is so weird.. Lately im getting bad vibes from her. Everytime i compliment her she ignores it and doesn't really like to hear it from me. OK , and then she gives funny reaction when MT wants to give me flowers to address me for Step Mother's Day. Well hello , doesnt mean i did not give birth to MT and just dated your son in a couple of years you dont have to give that sneer attitude to me.

I do make myself useful by doing all the housework and welfare. Gosh...makes me furious.. now i see why getting along with in-laws / in my case about to be in laws is NIGHTMARE. A further post shall be written more into this topic.



Anyways , i just want to address to all those girls who are dating / married a guy with kids , Happy Step Mother's Day or Happy Tolerating Girlfriend's Day. I know how you lot feel not being appreciated. Definitely need to address this issue to Hallmark! Unless this isn't a big issue .



Lots of Love,
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Pictures from Holiday






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Chinese New Year

Can't believe time has past and back to reality. Brought JT back to my home country to celebrate Chinese New Year . I can say it was amazing, was really good to have couple time together and escape the horrible cold weather. I am glad i am able to show him my hometown and most of all meet both my mum and dad side of family. Anyways i am in the midst of finishing up my dissertation. I shall post up more pictures and write about my holiday during break. In the meantime enjoy this picture for the time being.

Lots of Love ,

Dy
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