Boyfriend does not like me to take baths with his daughter
At our normal routine , we usual look forward to see each other on the webcam and it normally involves something quite kinky or fun stuff.
But lately we have not been doing this at all and its been the past 3 weeks his been treating me rather cold and unaffectionate.Sure i can understand his going through health problems where currently his suffering from neck pains ( cant move right or left ) / tonsillitis / swollen hands ( unable to give himself a wank). Seriously JT and me have been arguing alot and sometimes it just spoils the mood of wanting to be with him. I understand he is suffering pain from his hemophilia condition. *Yes , JT is a severe Hemophiliac with Hepatitis C, with prone to arthritis and spontaneous internal bleeding.* At times i am just fed up about his condition and envy those who are in a normal relationship.
You may i say I am inmature and selfish but hey I am human & ONLY if you were in my shoe...
( Disadvantages of having a Hemophilia Boyfriend)
Anyways thats a slight intro to compliment the topic. It started out like this last night........
Everything was alright when i mention this to him :-

Me: Hun , i took a bath with MT when you were at silverstone.
JT : U took a bath with her? * STRANGE EXPRESSION SHOWN* Dont do it again! She is nearly 7 and capable to bathe herself . She needs to be aware of her body and cant be naked to others. I dont like it.
Me : *SHOCK and felt Hurt like i was some kind of pedifile* i kept quiet and mention *oh sorry* but my heart felt really hurt cause i thought i could just save time and jump into the bath together & get cleaned up ASAP. i felt as if i have interfere his father and daughter routine ( he normally takes bathes with MT only) maybe i did and i read somewhere that NEVER INTERFERE THE FATHER AND DAUGHTER moment but i wonder does it apply to what he normally does with MT?
JT: * went on doing his thing on the net & wrapping up ebay items*
Me : Are you annoyed at what I did?
JT: No , just dont do it again!
Me : i Kept really queit and guilty & sad.
JT: Dont get upset about it darling.
Me : i still kept queit and guilty. * too late ! im hurt & sad. And went straight to googling my boyfriend does not like me taking baths with his daughter*

Im just curious why did he react that way?


While i am still trying to conclude this post , what a coincidence , he emailed me :- Subject: boo Date: Tue, 29 Jul 2008 11:27:30 +0100 From: j.t@a*****.com To: dc*****@hotmail.com

you're quiet...
popping out soon to post parcels.
How about Memory Capture for a name... !? :)
JTxx

-----Original Message----- From: DC Sent: 29 July 2008 12:14 To: JT Subject: RE: boo
yeah bit quiet as im still digesting about the bath with MT. [ makes me want to avoid bathing MT now as u mention she is nearly 7 and needs to be aware of her own body and i guess i interfere your *father and daughter* routine with MT. Im sorry about it ] anyways ebay has taken out my Louis Vuitton teddy bear list out as some jerk emailed me how come i offered next day delivery ( 9.00 am ) and everyone is using next day delivery ( 1 pm) Im annoyed at him cause if he had read closely i put both option up and blady ebay remove my listing after he ( buyer) emailed me as they think i am charging too much.and i have to pay listing fee again if i want to list that brooch again. Memory Capture is a good , guess u like the word capture. keep that on the list and brain storm more. X

From:jt@a****com
Sent:29 July 2008 11:23:47
To: dC@hotmail.com


Don't worry about the bath thing darling, it's really not a big issue.

JT xx

puts a smile back on my face ........
Love,
Dy x
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Apprehensive to Business Partnering

As i have mention , * JT *and I are in the process of setting up an event photography business , we have 2 events lining up now in our calender...
First would be a 'James Bond' theme event in 13th September and the other is a wedding event.

I am so excited and nervous , so much to prepare and so little time to get everything organize.!!!!
Cant believe everything is happening so quickly. It all started when both JT an i got our cameras. JT got a canon 400D while I got a canon G7
during our birthday month which is June 2007. That's when we both also started to court each other as well.

We are looking at materials and working out cost to set up our business.At the moment we are deciding to choose what type of equipment and settings to use so we can perform well in the event.
It's always scary to start something from scratch but i think both this would be a great opportunity for us to turn our passion into reality. I''ll be also selling my G7 in order to upgrade to 400d or better 450d.

However what worries me at the moment is , since all these exciting opportunity turns up & the decision of setting up a business together , i wonder would this affect our relationship later on?

Reading through this coloumn

  • You still need to get comfortable with how much personal sharing you will do,
  • what secrets you will hold within the partnership and withhold from friends and colleagues, whether hugs and affection are appropriate
  • Even how much attention you pay to birthdays and other personal life events. Essentially, no matter what sex your partner is, you are negotiating how much distance you want between your personal life and your working relationship with your partner.
  • Stepping across the line of your partner's personal boundaries can destroy your partnership.
  • If you don't establish ahead of time what your expectations are, one wrong step can critically injure your partnership.
  • In some partnerships, these issues are never discussed because they quite simply never come up. My caution to you is this:
  • If any questions about personal boundaries do arise, address them in the early stages, before misunderstandings occur. Though these can be the most sensitive and embarrassing conversations you have with your partner, ignoring these issues will only endanger your partnership.

To be followed later on.......



Love ,
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Dating someone different from your own race.....
Coming from a traditional family background , never have i dreamed on dating someone different other then my race. Of course i have my fascination on *Caucasian blokes* at a young age due to influence of watching many western movies and subscribing to American teen magazine like TEEN BEAT , BIG BOP , etc..but i did not expect that i will actually date one.. SERIOUSLY...
Till now i kept questioning myself this even before or after dating JT who is English, did i fancied him because :-
the fascination i had when i was young i.e. dating Caucasian men cause they are one gorgeous breed with blue eyes and light hair?or bad experience from past relationships from same ethnic minority ?,or is it a curious experience to date someone different ? ,
or his commitment to raise his 6 year old daughter as a single parent which gave me an impression how responsible he is ?
or hating to be lonely in a foreign country and desperate for companionship?or physical attraction ( large at appropriate areas ) ?
The answer : ????


judging from an Asian Dating website :-
Asian Women get the dirty end of the stick, like in many Asian countries. In these Asian countries where it happens it is not considered the "dirty end," but a duty. So Asian women have a lot to contemplate when considering marrying one of the available males in her country. Will he be able to support me and our family? Will he keep a mistress? Well he beat me and having no right to divorce I will have no alternative but to stay with him?In other words Western men are far more desirable for a life companion than Asian men. Western men are perceived as being very loving, and more modern than Asian. This means the woman can look forward to more freedom and a more equal relationship with a Western man.
Not sure that is true , a bit commercial to agree as its a dating website
Another website which i came across , Melissa who has her opinion on dating a white guy and now married to one:-

We both were doing the same course in electrical and electronics engineering. It wasn't love at first sight unfortunately.... he wasn't at all my type of guy. First of all.. he's white... I never found white guys attractive, and second he has full manly facial hair!

But my experience so far , there can be weirdness e.g. i am oriental and he is white and I love seafood and he does not ( most english people even girls dont eat them due to its acquired taste & conservative culture) and then whatever food he likes more etc. meat / steak , we will end up eating more of it compare to oriental OR asian cuisine so to fit into his culture.
The relationship can be amazing and intense , but like any other relationships, its a give & take situation and its a kind of thing you need to prepare yourself to adjust to .
Then comes the issue of dealing with his ex's family as sometimes i feel as if I am not good enough or too foreign to date JT . I think they will always resent that their daughter * SH* and JT should be together. But she is already married to another guy *MH* anyway and have a child *A* together.
Moreover the kind-of the step mom role is also another challenge for me as i have no experience of being a mother but what i do is * do not force them to like you* and never interrupt the father & daughter moment as he has her only in the weekend. I will post more on this later on..
End of the day , dating someone foreign is not a barrier for you to have a relationship. As long you know that you have similar culture backgrounds e.g. raised in nice families and similar taste in hobbies , for me and JT its photography , movies , music , and have some of the same friends then it is of course no different to dating some one of your own race in the same situation and skin color should never really matter anyway- my answer is

as long your happy , nothing matters at all, who cares what people thinks


Love,

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This is me....
Name : Dy
Current Age : 26
Country : United Kingdom
Current County: Coventry, West Midlands
History : Came to UK at age 18 , had my first relationship with a guy in my home country Malaysia. It lasted for 4 years. Went to various universities ended up in Coventry to complete my bachelors in Business. Did a placement year and met a guy who is a single dad, whom I am now dating for almost 1 year. Have struggled to understand what lies ahead, coping to be a step-mom role , understanding Interracial relationship , their culture , etc.. More to spill later on …
Interest : I do part-time photography for David Llyods in Port Solent with my partner. Am in the middle of setting up an event photography service with him .Love to Spend quality tine with family as they always comes first. Other then that , my main goal is to be successfully self –sufficient and enjoy the zest of life!

Seize opportunities ,what ever that lies ahead….

Love ,
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