Resouce: Taken from flashwebmaster.com
This issue has been bugging me ever since I moved in with JT. Sure this isn't my house and I don't owned it but will be putting some contribution to it once I get my degree sorted and the usual job hunting procedure.
Anyways last nite at dinner , I took the courage to ask him : -
Me : Sweetie , You are going to be angry when i ask you this.
JT : OK, Tell me. What's bugging you ?
Me : Ok you know that we have been going out for a while ( 2 years and 8 months) I was wondering if it is ok to change some pictures in the living room.
JT : Oh good idea, which one?
Me: Well its kinda awkward to have a huge picture of SH ( JT's ex , MT mom) MT and you in the living room wall.So I was wondering if you can put it in MT's room instead. I don't mean to say that picture isnt nice , but just that its weird to have it on your living room wall as the centre piece when I am dating you.
and his reply......
JT: Yeah , why not. If it makes you happy. Can put it in MT's room. I just put it there as it was my 21st birthday gift from SH and its got MT in it. Have to find a replacement though. A picture of you, MT and me?
Me : SPEECHLESS....ok ( that was'nt so hard after all )
I stumble in a couple of website about this matter and the best i found is from singlemommyhood.com . Have a read through of her post. Her situation isn't that similar to mine as she on the other hand is her daugther wants to display her picture of her father ( her ex husband) but told her 13-year old daughter that it would be better to display in her room only.
FullCustodyDad on the other gave his opinion on it saying :-
'Pictures of the Ex are important to kids and most certainly should be in the kids’ rooms. My daughter has pictures of her mom and every other year I try to take another one of her and my Ex to add to her room.'
After interviewing several social workers who are trying to determine contested custody disputes say…
1) No pictures of the Ex is a tip or concern that the parent may harbor alienation or resentment.
2) Pictures of the Ex in the kids room is ideal and shows balance.
3) Pictures of the Ex in the living room or all over the house is a tip that the parent is trying too hard to impress them or is not dealing with the divorce.
Hope this helps other to answer questions. Let me know what you guys think?
Lots of love,
